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Mishlei 18-19 (Brotherhood)

Mishlei 18-19

Brotherhood

Key Concepts

People who are granted the privilege of sharing their youthful years with brothers or sisters don’t give much thought to the powerful forces that can affect such a relationship. Hidden beneath the surface of comradeship and instinctive goodwill there is the potential for intense love born of a shared identity. At the same time there is the surprising potential of intense and lasting hatred born of envy and resentment.

These powerful emotions are inherent in the circumstance of the sibling relationship. They are brought into actuality when the right conditions are present, such as when a brother or sister is in desperate need or when there is an inheritance to be shared.

Exploring Mishlei

To make us aware of the strange forces that can affect any sibling relationship, Mishlei has presented us with a unique proverb that is subject to conflicting interpretations. This awareness can help an individual understand why he is instinctively reacting as he does and enable him to more effectively exert self-control so that his actions are governed by his wisdom.

The proverb draws our attention to a triggering event that has caused individuals to be tested by the conflicting forces of brotherhood. That event occurs when one of the brothers perceives himself to have been wronged by the other.  When a brother feels wronged, the natural resentment can promote bitter enmity or can lead him to draw on the reserves of love or duty that enable him to overcome resentment.

The alternate outcomes are reflected in two interpretations of the text of the proverb. The first interpretation shows what happens when the two brothers find the bonds of brotherhood to be so stronger than their differences. The second interpretation  shows what happens when the brothers are unable to forgive each other, resulting in a bitter enmity.

 אָח נִפְשָׁע מִקִּרְיַת עֹז וּמִדְיָנִים כִּבְרִיחַ אַרְמוֹן

(Loyalty) The loyalty of a wronged brother is more secure than a fortified city; and even when they become adversaries, the brothers  overlook their differences and their brotherly bonds remain firm like the locking bolt of a palace . 

(Enmity) The resentment felt by a wronged brother is more unyielding than a fortified city; and when they become adversaries, their alienation endures like the locking bolt of a palace . 

Learning Mishlei

 (Loyalty)  The  loyalty of a wronged brother  אָח נִפְשָׁע
is more secure than a fortified city   מִקִּרְיַת עֹז,
and even when the brothers become adversaries   וּמִדְיָנִים
their love  remains firm  like the locking bolt of a palace   —  כִּבְרִיחַ אַרְמוֹן .

 (Enmity)  The  resentment  felt by a wronged brother  אָח נִפְשָׁע
is more unyielding than a fortified city   מִקִּרְיַת עֹז,
and when the brothers become adversaries   וּמִדְיָנִים
their alienation endures like the locking bolt of a palace   —  כִּבְרִיחַ אַרְמוֹן .

Additional Insight

A typical source of conflict between brothers occurs in a situation involving the distribution of an inheritance. The risks of misunderstanding and ill will are especially great because each party has such high expectations of the strength of his case, thinking of it like a fortified city. And yet the ruling in a court of law may bar him from what he thinks of as being rightfully his, just as a locking bolt keeps out intruders from a palace. For this reason, instead of relying on human judges, it is often advisable to let the matter be settled by the casting of a lot, as suggested in the previous proverb. (מלבים)

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